Five Attitudes that Will Make You to
By Chris Widener
Understand this: Much of your world, and
your experience in it, will be a direct result of the attitude
you choose to have. Let me break that statement down a
One, it is MUCH of your world.
Yes, there are some things that just happen and there is
nothing we can do about it, but much of our world is not by
happenstance, but determined by the attitudes we take.
Two, your attitude is one that you
You do not have to have a chip on your shoulder. You do not
have to be sad or angry. You do not have to believe that you
are incapable of achieving success. We can choose at any moment
how we will believe and how we will interact with the
Third, our experience is a direct result of our
For example, if we have a bad attitude toward someone, what
kind of attitude do you think we are going to get back? That’s
just the people side, but that makes up most of our world right
So, if our attitudes determine to a great degree what kind
of life we will have, shouldn’t we focus in on the best
attitudes to have and then make them ours? Absolutely! If we
want to soar with the eagles in this life, and if there are
attitudes that will make us soar, shouldn’t we pursue them with
all our hearts? By all means! So here we go!
Five attitudes that will make you soar!
This is the most basic of all attitudes. We simply must choose
to believe that we can. In our house we are not allowed to say,
“I can’t.” We can say, “I’ll try,” or “I tried and failed,” but
not “I can’t.” Telling yourself that you can’t will in effect
make it so you can’t. But telling yourself that you can will in
effect enable you to achieve much more. Even if you actually
only achieve 50% of what you tell yourself you can achieve, you
will achieve at least that much more than if you told yourself
I actually have a standard way of going about getting myself
off of the starting block: I simply say if somebody else has,
then I can too. And if many others have, then surely I can too!
I have to be smarter than at least one of those who has already
done it. I have to be able to work harder than at least one
other. There has to be at least one other person who has come
from more difficult circumstances than me. And if they can do
it then certainly, “I can!”
“I will be generous.”
Another attitude that will make you soar is to be a generous
person. The attitude (and discipline) of generosity increases
your likelihood of success for two main reasons: One, you are
happier about yourself and that puts you in a state of mind
that is prepared for successful living. Two, people pay back
people who are generous. Generous people receive in kind and
that will raise you to levels yet unseen.
“I will make a difference in the lives of those
People who soar are generally people who have the attitude of
helping other people. Yes, they may do it for monetary gain,
but they are others-focused. They want to change the way people
live and experience life for the better. They are difference
makers all around.
I live in a town that is very affluent. Most of the people I
know, work with, and have as friends are very successful in
this world. One thing I can say, as almost a universal truth,
is that to a person, they are people who are not self-consumed
but genuinely care about others and will do what they can to
help others. This is what I know to be true about the attitudes
of the genuinely successful.
“Not much will make me angry.”
Whether or not we get angry is a choice of attitude. We
determine whether or not we will be angry. I have found that
often I will meet with someone who is struggling with achieving
something and in many cases I find that they are angry people.
They have held onto an attitude that is at its root angry. When
we take on an attitude that raise the bar on what will make us
angry, we are positioning ourselves to be in a state of mind
that is better able to live and work in this world in such a
way as to achieve success.
“I will look for the good in every
This is basic optimism. Successful people who soar through life
are those who are optimistic about life. They see the good,
think the best and strive for greatness, believing all the
while that they will achieve it because it is possible!
I suppose there are a few other attitudes that would make
you achieve all that you dream of, but these are the basics and
ones that we would do well to master first.
Where do you see yourself? Do you need an attitude
adjustment? Take a look again:
I can.Make these attitudes your goal and as you get them
you will watch yourself soar!
I will be generous.
I will make a difference in the lives of those around
Not much will make me angry.
I will look for the good in every situation.
Have a nice flight!
Reproduced with permission from Chris Widener's Weekly Ezine.
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